Self Acceptance

    Acceptance of one's strength and weakness is one thing we all must learn; learn to accept your strength and improve on it as well as your weakness. Weaknesses are part of human tendencies so it is not a thing of shame that you have them but it's a big shame on you when you do not strife to improve them. Lao Tzu once said:

"Because one believes in oneself, one doesn't try to convince others. Because one is contented with oneself, one doesn't need others' approval. Because one accepts oneself, the whole world accepts him or her."

    Convincing others is not a thing you try to do because your actions have done a lot more, they just accept you for who you are because your efforts are glaring to them. Understanding oneself goes a long way in actualizing self acceptance. This phase is known as self discovery. When we understand ourselves, we get to know our strengths and weaknesses to explore and improve on them. Thales said that the most difficult thing in life is to know oneself but when we try to understand ourselves, we begin to fill the void of not knowing ourselves.

    In the bid to gain self acceptance, consciously or unconsciously we begin to get sneered at and mocked by the very people we think would reason along with us. They in turn do us more good than harm when we intensify on our quests and get better. Alice Walker said "no person is your friend who demands your silence or denies your right to grow. " Our right to grow is enhanced by their positive and negative criticisms. Do not try to give it hard thought of who these people really are. Everyone in your life is there because you're in that phase that you need them and because we are trying to write stories that might not end in the intended way, we must embrace also unintended characters.

    Trouble not because you're afraid to ask why but because we might never get that one important lesson from them. Everyone has impact(s) in our lives, at the very least one positive impact. So to gain the world's acceptance, you must have first achieved self acceptance. The things you do for yourself give certain percentage of confidence to others in you. What you don't have you cannot give to others.